A coworker I occasionally give dating advice to came into my office this morning and demanded to know why it has taken him so long to find a great girl. Before I could begin he interrupted. And since I just found her, why now? I’m leaving for graduate school soon! I shifted in my chair. Rocked lightly side to side. And then lifted my shoulders in response.
“Just enjoy every day you have with her,” I said. “You never know what will happen.”
He seemed disappointed in my response. And I won’t lie, I was too. Usually I feel like I give pretty solid advice. Usually I feel like I know what I am talking about. Or can at least fake it. But this time was different. This time, I kind of know exactly what he is talking about. And I don’t really want to know the answer either.
2 Comments
1 Rupert Pupkin
Posted 05/13/2010 at 8:03 pmPermalink
This is perfectly fine advice. In a way, I think he wasn’t seeking advice at all, so much as consolation. His questions were rhetorical. He’s off to graduate school, which is an incredible opportunity for him both intellectually and socially. If I were a young single 20-something guy, what I wouldn’t give to be in grad school. It’s a perfect environment to meet eligible objects of affection. But if he’s really sweet on this one woman, then he’ll find a way to make things happen with her. I suspect, however, that it may be early on for him with this woman, and he may be in the throes of infatuation.
2 kmm
Posted 05/14/2010 at 8:19 amPermalink
I think you are right. He was not looking for advice, just hope. I think we all like to hear stories of success when the odds are stacked against us. Especially when we are sweet on someone.