Old school dating is not a whirlwind of sexy. It is not making out on a city side street at 2am. It is not sending deviant text messages back and forth all night from across town. I know this. Old school dating is polite. Slower. And maybe for some of you, a little boring. Old school dating is filled with “May I pick you up laters?” and “I am looking forward to seeing yous” and goodnight messages to make sure you are home safe.
Old school dating is spending all evening with someone learning who they are, where they come from, and where they hope to go next. Exploring the differences and finding common ground to tread upon between courses. I like taking things slow. It gives both of you time to make big verbal mistakes and see how the other rebounds. To discover that he gave up on baseball 20 years ago and you have no desire to go back to school and match his four degrees.
Old school dating is taking things one date at a time, not ruling anything out or counting anything in. It is learning who this stranger is and what role he will play in your life. And it is just being happy the first time he reaches down and holds your hand in the dark.
2 Comments
1 Megan
Posted 02/12/2010 at 2:08 pmPermalink
Aw cute! I like the little discoveries, and then each day is new
2 kmm
Posted 02/12/2010 at 2:24 pmPermalink
This is true Megs. And when someone tells you that they believe marriage is possible if both people understand that a real relationship is not sexy, but day to day grocery shopping and picking up the milk. Then you are like, whoa, sexy. I like discoveries like that.